What about when I get frustrated?
When I get frustrated, I need to learn to think in a very different way. There are three ingredients to frustration:
1. How hard I work.
2. How much I care.
3. My level of expectations.
Most people, when they get frustrated the give up and back away. While this is not always wrong to do, it does not move us to a new dimension, but will keep us stuck in a current dimension. If we want to move to a new dimension then we MUST work harder, care more and raise our level of expectations of us and those around us.
Yes . . . it will hurt for a short time and the pain will increase, but we'll make the breakthrough and move to higher levels of success.
Before we listen to a "kind of crazy" recording of someone getting frustrated it would be good to understand The Grandpa Boersma Principle. The principle was given to Mark Boersma at the age of 8 by his grandfather who passed away when he was 9 years old . . . "Mark, when someone shares something with you, it could be 1% true or 99% true, it's not up to them to tell you where or how much of what they say applies, it's up to you."
Mark has grown to understand that when we are defensive there is a lot higher % that applies than what we think. If we get defensive ALL learning will shut down.
You may want to listen to the following recording "How To Think Differently" prior to listening to the recording.
NOTE: Believe it or not, there are a lot of clients you will face who are like the following recording. If you learn to think like they think you will find that they will be some of your best clients. If you don't you will either quit on them or they will fire you. :-)
WARNING: While the following does not contain any swearing it does continue a great deal of intensity of feeling. The purpose of this is to help individuals understand that we often frustrate others and aren't even sensitive enough or don't care enough to realize it. Another benefit of this is to learn how to gain perspective and push one's self maybe a littler harder than we think we can. Another great learning is the the top person (that would be you if you really do want to own a company) learns to never complain about anything as that never helps. It's to dig in and take action and do something.
If you are an amiable or analytic personality you will probably be even more greatly offended and might think that the individual is being mean and not treating people well.
TIP: The reason you might feel this way is that "Yes, much of this frustration is directed at the amiable personality type, so others might have responded to you this way. Hmmmm, something to think about. - Maybe if the amiable where a little more sensitive to others then maybe they would get this directed at them? Maybe the amiable isn't as helpless and innocent as they think they at time present themselves to be. Maybe if the amiable were to focus on "just getting the task done" and not complaining to others who they are so busy and just do the work then this wouldn't be directed at them. Maybe, if the amiable where to take personal ownership rather than blame someone else, maybe there would be a lot less conflict? Something to think about. :-) - Maybe if the analytic personality would learn to see the big picture and and not get all tripped up by all the small details that probably don't matter then maybe they would be a part of the solution rather than sitting on the sidelines, at times, and telling everyone else what is wrong but not being a part of the solution. Get in and fix something! :-)
